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Courtney Romano's avatar

This is so dead on! I often (unconsciously) hold the assumption everyone knows what I'm thinking, and they rarely ever do because, inexplicably, they can't read my mind. Lol. I've been on the other side of that too, where I'm like, wow I wish I knew what this person wanted so I could help in some way, but I have no idea. For me, clarity is a relief. Something I can work with! Both in the giving of clarity and the getting. This is a great reminder, thank you.

Also, if this essay had a soundtrack to it, it would be Theo Katzman's "Be the Wheel" — check it out, so good! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oEB0Y4kY5VE

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Colby Day's avatar

Ha! Yes! I think it's very easy to unconsciously be waiting for everyone to realize the "very obvious thing that we're all thinking..." when in fact it's just me thinking that and waiting for it! Good communication is hands down the number one factor in whether I walk away from a project thinking "that was a good person to work with," so I am TRYING to practice what I preach

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Courtney Romano's avatar

Oh yes oh yes oh yes, I've had so many fumbles and fails in the communication arena. Trying, as ever, to do better each time!

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Lauren Greenwood's avatar

As always, incredible advice, Colby! It's hard being cringe :D

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Colby Day's avatar

To be cringe is to be freeeeee

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Lauren Greenwood's avatar

My daily mantra

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